LOS ANGELES, April 17, 2012 — When Hilary Rosen attacked Ann Romney for being a homemaker, the resulting blowback had Democrats from Rosen to President Obama on the defensive. They manufactured the “war on women” to score political points, and in the blink of an eye the issue backfired. Yet the reasons why Ms. Rosen attacked Mrs. Romney cut much deeper than politics.
One could make the case that Barack Obama has contempt for ordinary Americans, and that Ms. Rosen is a perfect surrogate on the snobbery circuit. The haughtiness with which she dismissed Ann Romney made Hillary Clinton and her “baking cookies” remark seem polite.
Yet this is not ordinary liberal arrogance. This is not typical, sneering leftist condescension. The real problem with Hilary Rosen is an entirely different emotion. It is what causes women like Rosen to savage their fellow sisters (Sarah) Palin, (Michele) Bachmann and (Ann) Romney.
It’s called jealousy.
Life can be cruel, and most outsiders looking at Hilary Rosen and Ann Romney could see why the former would passionately loathe the latter. It does not take a trained psychiatrist to figure it out.
Ann Romney just had her 63rd birthday, and she looks stunning. While many older women are attractive, the word gorgeous is not thrown out as often. Raquel Welch at 70 is gorgeous. Ann Romney at 63 is as well. Now as beautiful as she is now, imagine how she must have looked in her 20s. It is no wonder that Mitt Romney was not only smitten with her, but schemed to drive her home so he could get to know her better. Mr. Romney was (and is) a handsome man from a prominent family, and most women would want the attention of a young man like him who was obviously going places.
So from an outsider’s point of view, Ann Romney had it all. Now look at Hilary Rosen. Ms. Rosen is a lesbian. This is absolutely not a criticism of her lifestyle choice. Yet growing up “different” in the 1960s and 1970s had to be painful. The gay rights movement did not exist then. Gay people stayed in the closet, and many of them suffered. Even today, many gay people live in fear of what others will think of them. When the best case scenario of total acceptance occurs, there is relief.
Mrs. Romney got to live the American dream. She had children and raised a family. Her husband was a good provider who was totally in love with her, and she him. While every family has tough times, the fact is the Romneys have to be considered a successful family. They have five sons, and all of them are productive members of society who have (to the best of our knowledge) stayed out of trouble.
Hilary Rosen never had this. When she turned 40, she still had no children. Again, this is not an indictment of her as a person. However, so many feminists were fed a pack of lies during the women’s liberation movement. The idea that all women would be content with corner offices was simply untrue. Many women, even feminists, wanted to be wives and mothers.
Ms. Rosen had her shot at happiness when she and her domestic partner adopted twins. Yet despite women being told they could have it all, this is often untrue as well. In 2003, Ms. Rosen left her job to spend more time with her partner. The woman who would eventually go on to attack Ann Romney actually was Ann Romney! Ms. Rosen chose her family over her career.
Yet the story has a sad ending that deserves empathy for those possessing a functioning heart. Ms. Rosen and her partner would separate in 2006. Ms. Rosen gave up her career for her family, and her family broke up. This happens to far too many people, and each situation is a different type of tragedy.
While failing in a relationship or career does not and should not make a person a failure, human beings feel pain when they fail. They feel like failures. A natural reaction among many is to envy those who “succeeded.”
Hilary Rosen failed where Ann Romney succeeded. This does not make Ann Romney morally superior, but it was Ms. Rosen who engaged in bullying tactics to begin with. The same vitriol directed at Governor Palin and Congresswoman Bachmann stems from angry women hostile toward happy, successful, gorgeous women adored by their husbands.
Rather than tear down these lovely women, Ms. Rosen and other women who hate these women should work on their own happiness. One thing is certain. If Ms. Rosen ever was truly suffering, and Ann Romney knew about it, she would reach out to Ms. Rosen in a heartbeat.
That is what good people do. Ann Romney is a good person. She has spent her life helping others. That is what a compassionate, nurturing person is about. Mrs. Romney raised a family and endured battles with cancer and multiple sclerosis. Mrs. Romney is Superwoman, but she got to that level by simply being a super woman.
Rather than attack her, Ms. Rosen should reach out to her and learn from her. After all, Ms. Rosen’s current approach led to public rebukes from those quick to throw her under the bus. That must be an isolating feeling, another rejection in a life filled with painful moments. Mrs. Romney had her pain, but handled it with such grace, class, and dignity that it is no wonder that a man running for President would publicly praise her as the love of his life.
We all want to be loved, and love. Ann Romney is. Hilary Rosen may not be. That is why she spread hatred. Jealousy has a tendency to do that.
Brooklyn born, Long Island raised, and now living in Los Angeles, Eric Golub is a politically conservative columnist, blogger, author, public speaker, satirist and comedian.
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