When I walked into the room holding my son’s hand, I felt a rush of senses. The smell of fresh evergreens instantly transported me into a magical wintertime. I felt the profound calm of the darkened room, lit only by one candle in the middle of the spiral of greens and a few candles in the corner lighting the music for the woman playing the lyre. This was the definition of reverence.
Would you believe that 12 young children, aged three and four, walked silently into the room for this preschool Advent Garden? No questions, no shouts of “yay!” or “wow!” They were just there in the moment, taking it all in. This is why I’ve chosen Waldorf education for my son.
I admit that I haven’t read much about Waldorf beyond You Are Your Child’s First Teacher and Beyond the Rainbow Bridge (and a handful of articles), but I’ve learned a lot through attending last year’s parent-child class and through parent meetings with teachers. I love that Waldorf invites children to appreciate simplicity and that it just holds them there.
As a former English teacher, I used to ask my students to think a lot – about what we read, about what they saw, and, perhaps above all – about their own thinking. The latter was primary when I taught Introduction to Women’s Studies to college students. It’s not that I don’t believe those skills or processes to be valuable anymore. I just don’t think they are appropriate for little minds.
Our children will have a lifetime to answer questions and ask questions they seriously want to know the answers to. Right now, when my son is not even four and is experiencing so many things for the first time, I want him to just be there in the moment. And he doesn’t need to know why things work the way they do. I’d rather he make something up, or make a guess.
I talk a lot, and it’s a challenge for me not to engage in an intellectual way when my highly verbal son poses questions with such curiosity. But if I answer him, where does the curiosity go? What good will it do him to learn something by my telling him instead of him figuring it out on his own?
Walking into the Advent Garden, I felt a profound sense of connection to the natural world and the spiritual world. I grew up with a lot of TV and no religion, and I was moved to tears just by entering this magical room. It was a thing of beauty to watch each student’s face reflect the glow of his or her apple candle as it was lit from the central candle. The room gradually grew brighter as more and more candles appeared around the spiral of greens.
My friend, a Hindu woman raised in the U.S. by Indian parents, had the same visceral reaction, being moved to tears by the Advent Garden. When I was in graduate school, I did a lot of writing and discussing, and I criticized the word “universal,” positing that every aspect of “reality” was socially constructed. Now, when I witness or participate in Waldorf rituals, I have a profound sense of connectedness to all living beings. Without a word.
The loudest sound was a three-year-old whispering in anticipation of such a special moment. Everything else was communicated with hands, held or with simple gestures inviting the children on their individual walks.
This is not to say that loud music and flashing lights or exclamations of excitement are bad or wrong. It’s just to say that it’s amazing what kind of beauty can rest in place when none of those things are expected.
And when sheer wonder is allowed to hang in the air, quiet as the gently plucked strings of a lyre.
Jessica Claire Haney is a freelance writer, editor and tutor. Her writing has appeared in parenting publications and poetry journals. A former high school English teacher, Jessica is mother to one son and is passionate about holistic health and well-being. Find more reflections on parenting at her blog, Crunchy-Chewy Mama, and on DC Metro Moms Blog.
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