Being broke is no excuse in dating

In the world of dating, being broke is no excuse. There are plenty of ways to enjoy love in a tough economy. Photo: Wikimedia Commons

ORLANDO, November 9, 2013 — In a tough economy, the last thing many people want to think about is dating. It is difficult to be socially active when financial worries hang over a person’s head.

Over the course of my life there have been prosperous years and leaner ones. While being broke is hurtful to a person’s pride and wallet, it cannot be a deterrent to dating.

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Some women will only date rich guys. Those women should be avoided. The goal is to find a life partner, not a companion for hire. Some men are losers who lack ambition, but many fiscally challenged men are a short period away from financial prosperity. Women worth dating understand this. There are plenty of ways to have romantic dates even when the money is not flowing in.

In college, virtually everybody is broke. A few people live off their parents, but the rest are struggling to survive. College girls do not expect to be taken to expensive restaurants when they are eating ramen noodles for dinner. A romantic evening can consist of two people going to the roof of a building, playing some soft music, and just slow dancing under the night sky.

In my immediate post-college years, I did not own a car. I lived within walking distance of several quiet bars. I would meet women for drinks, and then we would go our separate ways (or not). If the date was going badly, I was walking distance from my home. If the date was going exceedingly well, I was within walking distance of my home.

I also lived in a building with a heated pool and a jacuzzi. Inviting a woman to go swimming or just sit poolside can make for a quiet, pleasant evening. Some women say they would never go swimming when just getting to know a guy. They do not speak for all women. Plenty of women do. Women who put up immediate resistance to activities you enjoy are women to be avoided anyway.

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For deeply religious people, money is rarely a factor in the beginning. Orthodox Jews do not have traditional dates. The man and woman meet, and study Torah (Old Testament) together. A deep love of biblical learning often sees two people with zero dollars in the bank enjoy successful courtships that lead to decades of happiness for them and their children. The love comes well before the money.

For the less religious people, there is always movie night. Cable and satellite services offer hundreds of channels, many of them featuring great movies. Microwave popcorn is not that expensive.

As lame or uncool as it may sound, some dates can be quite pleasant even if they only involve playing cards or board games. Scrabble, Yahtzee, and Boggle are timeless classics. More than one guy in this world has ended up playing strip poker or strip chess because the girl felt the need to spice up the original, fully-clothed versions.

There are so many other ways to enjoy dating, even when lifestyles of the rich and famous are temporarily out of reach. Being less than comfortable financially must not be used as an excuse to delay finding love. As the classic song says, “Although we ain’t got money, I’m so in love with you honey.”

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The woman I am currently dating is not into materialistic displays, despite her being worth her weight in platinum. She prefers kindness to ostentatiousness. Dating her does not involve expensive baubles. But knowing her is certainly a rich experience that can best be described as priceless.

Brooklyn born, Long Island raised, and now living in Los Angeles, Eric Golub is a politically conservative columnist, author, public speaker, satirist and comedian. Eric is the author of the book trilogy “Ideological Bigotry, “Ideological Violence,” and “Ideological Idiocy.” 

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Eric Golub

Eric Golub is a politically conservative Jewish blogger, author, public speaker, and comedian. His book trilogy is “Ideological Bigotry,” “Ideological Violence,” and  “Ideological Idiocy.” 

He is Brooklyn born, Long Island raised, and has lived in Los Angeles since 1990. He received his Bachelors degree from the University of Judaism, and his MBA from USC. A stockbrokerage professional since 1994, he began blogging on March 11th, 2007, the three year anniversary of the Madrid bombings and the midpoint of 9/11. He has been inflicting his world view on his unfortunate readers since then. He blogs about politics Monday through Friday, and about football and other human interest items on weekends.



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