Standing out in the dating crowd: How to be the wolf pack alpha

When a mere member of the wolf pack, how does one man emerge as Alpha Photo: Stand out from the wolf pack

LOS ANGELES, March 10, 2013 — One of the gutsiest dating moves a guy can do is to try to break through the “wolfpack.” How does a man approach one woman sitting in a group of women?

This problem does not flow in both directions. If a woman approached a guy in a group, the other guys would quickly laugh, run, and scatter to leave their friend to fend for himself. Women are protective. Because of this, most guys simply avoid the wolfpack, or try to wait until the woman they like is alone for a brief moment. This is a mistake. Trying to get around the wolfpack makes them more protective. The proper solution is to dive right in, and always keep it classy.

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A man cannot make matters worse by being classy.

The first step is to decide which woman is the desired one. There is no shifting to the other women. If six women are sitting there, rejection by one means rejection by all. Make the choice and stay locked in, no matter the results. If one of the others likes you, they will approach you later. Women know what they want.

Take the leap. Walk right up and just do it.

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“Hey ladies , forgive my being shy and subtle, but your friend is absolutely stunning. I’m Eric. May I steal you away from your friends for a few to get to know you better?”

No matter what happens next, the entire group of women will be impressed. Any guy who would do that has a brass pair. High risk means much higher potential reward.

The best case scenario is that the woman says, “I would love that. Sure we can talk for a few.”

At that point the man should be careful not to get overconfident. “Ladies, I’ll have her back in a few minutes so as not to take away from your evening.”

My goal is not to take the woman home and have sex with her. This is a dating column for the purpose of marriage. Therefore, the conversation should be short and sweet. Get the phone number, agree to a time to talk, and return her to her friends. A lengthy conversation keeps her from her friends and could lead to a running out of things to say on the actual date. This is a commando raid: Get in, get it (her phone number), get out, get home.

Another scenario is a potential trap, but the man must not be afraid. One of the girls will ask you to join all of them. They are not letting their friend out of their sight, but they still want her to be happy. They do not know you or trust you. They want to size you up. Embrace this chance.

“Group interview, I love it. Let’s do it.”

The worst case scenario is rejection. Yet the man must remain classy. Anybody can be classy with a positive development. Class in the face of rejection takes character.

The last time a woman in a wolfpack rejected me was simple. She held up her hand and showed off a wedding band. Of the six women, she was the only married one of the bunch. The other five women were now off limits.

A graceful exit came after I inquired how long she had been “blessed.” She said she had been married six years. There was only one thing left to say.

“He has excellent taste in jewels. The ring is nice as well.”

After she told me I was “very sweet,” I walked away. The whole exchange took maybe two minutes, and there were plenty of other women in the club.

The Rolling Stones sang that “You can’t always get what you want.” Yet a man who conducts himself in a classy manner has a much better chance than one who does not. Women do notice the difference, and they do appreciate class.

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Brooklyn born, Long Island raised, and now living in Los Angeles, Eric Golub is a politically conservative columnist, author, public speaker, satirist and comedian. Eric is the author of the book trilogy “Ideological Bigotry, “Ideological Violence,” and “Ideological Idiocy.”

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Eric Golub

Eric Golub is a politically conservative Jewish blogger, author, public speaker, and comedian. His book trilogy is “Ideological Bigotry,” “Ideological Violence,” and  “Ideological Idiocy.” 

He is Brooklyn born, Long Island raised, and has lived in Los Angeles since 1990. He received his Bachelors degree from the University of Judaism, and his MBA from USC. A stockbrokerage professional since 1994, he began blogging on March 11th, 2007, the three year anniversary of the Madrid bombings and the midpoint of 9/11. He has been inflicting his world view on his unfortunate readers since then. He blogs about politics Monday through Friday, and about football and other human interest items on weekends.



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