The virtue of patience

Lack of patience is inherent in our DNA as human beings. Photo: wikimedia

MISSOURI, June 27, 2013- Lack of patience is inherent in our DNA as human beings. This lack of patience has been greatly magnified by technology. For example, we now get news instantly instead of waiting for the 10:00 newscast.

Patience is very important in our lives. Without it, we can become very stressed.

Young people seem most inclined to lack patience. When driving to and from work, they continually changed lanes to avoid idling in traffic. Ironically, it really did not help them get there any faster.

Years later as they were doing these idiotic lane changes, it dawned on them this was totally ridiculous as they were a nervous wreck when they got out of the car. After that, they learned to sit back with their radio on and listened to the music and watch the other nervous wrecks change lanes. When they got to their destination, they were not stressed because they learned to be patient.

Many were tremendously blessed that through this inappropriate driving practice that they did not have or cause an accident but there were many that caused major accidents killing and injuring many people with permanent injuries.  It has come to pass that there are new words relevant to road impatient called Road Rage.

Very young children sitting in cars pepper their parents with questions regarding time, food and destination. Those same children later become parents and have their children sitting in the back seat of the car asking the same questions.

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School age children are still impatient. They want a car and money and jobs and want to grow up. They do not want to wait.

When young adults are ready for their first job, they want to stand on the roof and yell, “Hey world, I am here!” Some quickly develop a degree of patience as they enter this foreign world and find that they know very little. They need to observe and learn. They need to be mentored. Most are receptive to correction and the taking of direction.

As years pass, they gain a degree of job knowledge but are still young in age and really have not committed all the job errors that only time and opportunity allow them to make. It’s called life experience.

This taste of experience can also make them impatient. They now think they do know all they need to know, and are anxious to become the boss.

Time marches on and finally after many mistakes, trials and tribulations they gain enough life experience to become a part of the management team.

The new manager in this part of the life cycle experiences impatience as he wants to be a shining star so everything is “gung ho.”  Finally he learns that he must stop and be patient and employ the management and people skills that separate the excellent managers from the bad. Patience is one of the virtues of an excellent manager.

Now it is retirement time, and people have had that successful job experience; they have experienced and completed all the aspects of raising a family in their life cycle, and they are now ready to enjoy the good life. It is for the first time, as a rule, they are patient because they realize what is important in life. They seem to become very good listeners and reflect on what people are saying and then act as necessary. This is truly being patient. They now notice their stomach doesn’t turn flip-flops, due to being impatient, as they did in their 20s, 30s and 40s.   

Be patient and enjoy this moment in your life as “this too will pass.” 

How poor are they who have no patience! What wound did ever heal but by degrees;

William Shakespeare (1564-1616)

However, that’s from a time and place I am from-

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Charles Vandegriff, Sr.

Charles is a fifty-four-year career in technology retiring at the directors level from three major corporations. Followed by three-plus years as a free-lance columnist, published three books, over three hundred speeches to senior organizations, radio interviews, one television commercial and finally married for sixty-five years, four children, seven grandchildren and thirteen great grand children. 

Charles is also a Navy veteran.

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