Miss Utah didn’t win the crown, but she’s still a winner, so are you

Ignore the naysayers, all things, even negative experiences can work together for your good. Photo: Miss Utah

SALT LAKE CITY, June 18, 2013 — Miss Connecticut was crowned Miss USA during Sunday night’s pageant but Miss Utah is a winner in her own right.

Marissa Powell, 21, of Salt Lake City Utah all but bombed the interview portion of the competition when she tried to answer a question about gender inequalities in the work place. Her blunder and seeming “failure”, however, has catapulted her onto the national stage with a chance to do something big. You, like Miss Utah, may feel that your darkest moments define you, but with a change of perspective you’ll see that your loss may be your biggest blessing.

2 Questions to ask yourself when you feel like you’ve failed:

How can this moment improve my life? Alexander Graham Bell once said that, “When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.” When we set goals, we don’t usually set them casually. You want to be Miss USA? You want to marry your sweetheart of 5 years? Or secure that job with better pay and more job security? These are all fantastic goals, but what happens to you when these desires don’t materialize? Instead of focusing on the perceived failure, look around and continually ask yourself how this moment can improve your life. There is freedom in failure; with eyes trained to focus on what is good and what is positive, increased opportunity will become visible to you.

In this new place, who can I better serve? Trying to find ways to serve those around you will always turn a negative situation into a positive one. Miss Utah wasn’t very eloquent about unequal pay, but ultimately, so what? Her shot at the crown may be over, but her ability to start a conversation about that very important issue is not, and many would argue that, that is just as important than the crown. The same holds true for you, consider where you feel you’ve failed, from this new vantage point, are there still people who need your voice?  People who can benefit from your experience? Or quest to gain new experiences? When you consider others and their needs, you grow in your potential to do good and the painful effects of your failures begin to diminish.

Your mistake is probably not playing and re-playing thousands of times on YouTube like Miss Utah’s (maybe it is) but it’s likely that you’ve replayed it in your mind or analyzed what you could have done differently at least that many times. Take a break from that torture and consider the above questions, you’ll start to see things in a new light. 

 


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She currently lives in Salt Lake City, Utah, but Baltimore will always be her home. 

 

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